Monday, April 11, 2005

fun with iphoto

I owe a review of Sin City, but I haven't written it yet, and I seem to be a few days scattered in my blogging, and I am trying to salvage the pitiful remains of my marriage, so, herein, some photos of Trixie and Mama Dog and my girls' night in last Thursday, where we talked about men and played girl games.
In case you didn't know, I am on the left and Trixie is on the right.
And for more fun, here's where I decided to have fun with iPhoto! (This doesn't work for the non-Mac users out in the audience.)
You can see a normal picture here, right? Well, push that little remove red eye button and behold! The red eye from my ass magically disappears! However, Satanic Mama Dog remains behind.
In any case, Friday turned out to be a Day That Sucked, when I got an email from The Man Who Lives in the House telling me that the marriage wasn't going to work and to "get my crap out of the house as soon as possible." This was perhaps a catalyst to my getting rather drunk on Friday night.

Well, that and the Ukrainian dancers, in any case.

On Saturday morning, however, I woke up to an email from him pretending he had never sent the first email.

From the files of W.T. Fuck?

After some discussion, I basically told him if he wanted to work on saving our marriage he could get his ass up here, but it had better be next weekend, and we were going to have some frank discussions on our marriage, and we were not ignoring the elephant in the living room that he had put out there on Friday night.


I'm tired of having my emotions being pulled this way and that in the past six weeks, and I am positive you are tired of reading about them. I haven't felt like knitting at all. This is making me sick. We come to an understanding this weekend or we have no understanding at all and I file for legal separation in May when I return to Georgia, and the likelihood of the marriage being salvaged with me working in DC and him in Atlanta is slim to not a mother fucking chance in hell, because I'll find a place to live in DC when it comes down to that.

The End.

P.S. I am also afraid that any steps we take this weekend are temporary; that is, they might save the marriage for now but six months from now, a year from now, I'll be going through all of this all over again. Am I wasting my time?

P.P.S. Trixie started a new blog for our profession (records managers). It sure is one fucked up file cabinet.


Blogger dragon knitter said...

have you two thought about couple therapy? i'm sure he's just as confused as you are right now. i'm afraid to ask what brought you to this point in the first place, but whatever it was, you need to deal and move on whether it's stay or go. limbo sucks, trust me. and i'm sorry.

12:20 AM  
Blogger Stacey said...

don't forget my favorite: fucktard


1:44 AM  
Blogger Rabbitch said...

I think you should give him a chance. And then if it doesn't work, we kill him and take his stuff.

Just a suggestion.

2:45 AM  
Blogger Jenanne said...

My husband and I went through an awful time about 7 years ago; we found a program (Retrouvaille) that worked wonders for us, and for many of the other couples on the retreat with us that weekend.

I'm sorry you've got to deal with this - its hard, to be sure. My view has always been that marriage is worth fighting for.

6:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Boy that Trixie chick is really hot ! What ta-tas ! She is a real babe and her friend is quite the yummy cupcake too. Where can I get me some of that ?

11:16 AM  
Blogger Janice in GA said...

Hmm, from this distance it's hard to know what to say. If you've been married (or together) for a while, I'd say saving the marriage is worth a try. But (platitude alert) you both have to WANT to save it.
I remember reading about an old couple (one of those golden anniversary folks) once. Someone asked them if they'd ever had bad years together. "Bad years, hell!" was the response. "We had bad DECADES." Whether it's worth going through occasional (and possibly long) bad periods or not is a separate issue.
Good luck. And remember -- I'm available to go over and scold him like a little boy if you need me to. I do good *shakes finger in face*.

11:35 AM  
Blogger Shannon said...

I'm sorry. =\ I've been going through similar crap in my own marriage, and I know how much it sucks...

1:21 PM  
Anonymous carrie said...

I'm sorry you are having troubles. Seeking some professional help might not be a bad idea - if you thought the marriage was worth entering into, it's probably worth trying to save. But not worth sacrificing yourself/your happiness -

5:14 PM  
Blogger Jane said...

I'm with Janice. And you have to ask yourself if you feel there is something worth saving or not. Independent of whatever he says or promises, it all comes down to how you feel about it deep inside.

6:23 PM  
Blogger hockey mom said...

I'm with the Georgia contingent. Counseling is good for you both, regardless of whether or not you stay together.

I admire you for standing up and not letting him just try to throw your emotions around any more than he is.

You're far too good to be a doormat.

I personally like asswipe myself.

8:27 PM  
Blogger Heide said...

Are you getting sick of the "hang in there, baby!" comments I keep leaving you?? Too f-ing bad! Hang in there, baby! :)

Seriously, I can't say anything that these other commenters have said... I guess it's just a case of figuring out when enough is enough. You probably would regret it one day if you didn't try hard enough. But you would probably never regret trying too hard. You know?

Anyhoo... Can you please send me your mailing address? You can email me at fraulein_heideATyah00dotc0m

7:16 AM  
Blogger carma said...

I have to say that Assbeagle is my new favorite word, I hope you don't mind my stealing it.

And I know you're getting all sorts of support from "us" out there but add my name/support to that list.

Love (or something like it) ain't it a bitch?

And this is from someone that is also working her ass off not to feel like a doormat either.

4:40 PM  

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